I read an article recently that said most men will spend more on their mistress than their wife. However, they will spend Valentine's Day with their wife. They will make this up by spending the 13th or 15th with their mistress thus one can call those days Ashley Madison Day! I think the bottom line was that they spend the actual day with their spouse due to some type of "Madonna complex" and make it up to their mistress later. They buy practical presents for the spouse or simply flowers and put more time and effort into romantic and emotional gifts for their mistress.
I could analyze the hell out of that but I want to spend some time telling you what I do (because Lord knows the Ryan strategy is always a winner)! :)
As anyone who knows me will tell you, you can never really get a straight answer from me. Perhaps I missed my calling as a politician. I like to think of it as being influenced by people that always kept me on my toes. Bottom line, if you ask me a question I am likely to answer it with another question, an answer that is completely different from the question asked, or perhaps just with "it depends."
And so it is with the mistress/wife scenario. For me, it depends on your frame of reference.
To be technical though I spend more on my wife. Shannon is in a word materialistic; with her it ain't ever the thought that counts (unless you are thinking exactly what she is thinking), it's the merchandise. So for example on her birthday I gave her a certificate for a $350 all day spa treatment to a really exclusive place in the area. However, to be honest very little thought was put into it. But the $350 was well worth it; not getting her what she wants is always more costly in the end, she always finds a way to make me pay! Come to think of it everything with her tends to be costly in the end - I guess it's why I love her so much!
On the other hand recently, for a lady that will remain nameless for the purposes of this post, I simply bought a bottle of berry wine, a mini-chocolate/raspberry cake, and some cheap earrings. So you are saying, "Ryan you are screwing this poor woman who so graciously agreed to screw you!" :)
But here in lies the difference. Although I only spent a total of about $100 (when you throw in lunch and a birthday balloon I bought for her the week prior when we were out), for her it was in fact "the thought that counts."
She had recently talked about really liking this particular berry wine and that she couldn't find it anywhere local. In jumps Ryan the hero (at least any time when being a hero only costs $14/bottle) and knows just how and where to procure said berry wine. So even though I really didn't spend that much money on the present to Sa...(that lady) she really appreciated the fact that I had listened to her and had gotten exactly what she had wanted. And now she knows where to get that wine!
Better yet, I just brought her a bottle for our next afternoon out, or rather "in" if you know what I mean! :) Well that cost me another $79 as well but boy was it worth it! But that, as they say, is another story.
So what are your thoughts on the subject!
I wonder if one tends to be more attracted to the person who does in fact think "it's the thought that counts." Maybe it's when the thoughts don't count anymore that we start considering all this infidelity stuff. Hmm... perhaps a cautionary tale.